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The 17 And Only Reasons Why You’re Still Single.
1. You are selfish.
You love who you are and what you do. You love your freedom and alone
time, but if you’re not willing to give it up even a little, unless
Johnny Depp rides into your life on a Harley or Megan Fox bumps into you
in the grocery store, you may not find yourself in a relationship
anytime soon.
2. You are messy.
No one wants to date a slob. It’s not as big of a deal when you are
just dating, but living with a hoarder is pretty disgusting. Guys, clean
your bathroom, that brown ring in your toilet isn’t appealing, and
ladies at least throw all your clothes into the closet before you have a
sleepover.
3. You work nights or weekends.
I understand this one, because I work in the entertainment industry,
but men who are looking for wives don’t think of bartenders and DJs as
good material, and women looking for husbands don’t exactly think
nightclubs are great places to meet one. More importantly, not having
the same schedule is a huge strain on a relationship. I would never give
up my passion or change my career for someone, but nights and weekends
are when most people are free to spend time together. It’s a tough one
to work out.
4. You put everything on social media.
No one really cares what you ate for all three of your meals today
and a new relationship certainly doesn’t need all of your 800 cyber
friends weighing in on it.
5. You can’t make clear decisions or voice your opinion.
No one likes playing the “whatever you want” game. If you want to go
get Chinese food, speak up. If you hate scary movies, please don’t say,
“yeah sure that’s fine.” The point of dating is to get to know someone,
so please let the person you are dating actually hear your opinion.
6. You live at home.
How are you supposed to bring a date back to your place?? “Oh thats
just my dad, wanna go up to my childhood bedroom? Sorry if the stuffed
animals are creepy, I’ll just throw them in the closet.” Eeehhhh no
thanks.
7. You are married to your friends.
Friendships are one of life’s most important gifts, but if every free
second you have you are on conference calls with your 7 best high
school buddies, maybe it’s time for some space. No guy wants his
girlfriend constantly all dolled up for “girls night” and no woman wants
to constantly be sharing her man with his old frat bros. At the very
least include your partner into friend time.
8. You tell your mom everything.
A girl that is close with her family is a huge turn on. A girl that
is best friends with her mother is a red flag. No man wants his
potential mother in law to know every intimate detail about him. Go
ahead tell her that you are really happy with our intimate relationship,
but please refrain from telling her about that special thing I do with
my tongue…it just makes me feel really uncomfortable at family dinners.
9. You self-sabotage.
Ok so maybe you are really busy this month at work or the holidays
are around the corner and you’re strapped for cash, but these are not
good enough reasons to deny yourself. Stop finding excuses to not put
yourself out there. You can find 2 hours in your week for a dinner and
just skip the Starbucks runs for a few extra dollars. Give dating a real
try, before you find a reason why it won”t work.
10. You tell your boys everything.
No woman wants her boyfriend’s friends to know her secrets. Those
photos she sent you are just for you. That thing she likes, is just for
you to know. Please don’t belittle your intimacy by sharing it with your
friends. After all, what if she becomes your wife someday? Do you
really want them to have seen her shower selfie?
11. You move too quickly.
Relationships are delicate, especially in the beginning. Take it
slowly. Show interest, call, let the person know that you are thinking
of them, but please leave the ring and children jokes at the door, or
you may be seeing the door more quickly than you deserve.
12. Conversely, you move too slowly.
Slow and steady wins the race, but if you have a great first date
then wait too long to call, the other party may assume that you are
uninterested, risking them losing interest in you. There is also a
pretty good chance that you are not the only person who they’re planning
dates with, so if you don’t follow up properly, someone else may scoop
up your potential Mr./Mrs. Right. And just so we are clear, a follow-up
is a phone call a day or two later, thanking the other party and
planning a future date. Text messages do not suffice.
13. You constantly talk about your ex.
Everyone has baggage, hell, some of us have full luggage sets. Some
things may need to be spoken about, some things that you’ve learned you
want or don’t want in your next relationship can be useful information.
Constantly bringing up the ex, worse yet, in a negative way, speaks
volumes about how ready you are to be dating. No one wants to be with
someone who wants to be with someone else.
14. You don’t like yourself.
You know that annoying friend who is perfectly attractive, but still
talks about how fat or ugly he or she is? Yeah, picture someone you are
trying to sleep with constantly talking about how gross they are. After
awhile, you may actually convince me that I shouldn’t want to sleep with
you.
15. You’re a flirt.
Every girl wants her friends to like her man, but she doesn’t want to
feel like her man is trying to get her friends into bed. Be nice to
your partner’s friends, but lap sitting and late-night texting is too
far. And never, under any circumstances, admit that you would sleep with
any of them!
16. You don’t ask enough questions.
It’s great if you can talk about yourself and your interests, but if
you don’t show a genuine attentiveness to your partner, they are going
to get the impression that you are more interested in dating yourself.
17. You have unrealistic expectations.
Let’s be honest. Perfection doesn’t exist and real people have real
flaws that extend past a Jessica Alba-type girl-next-door, who’s
awkwardness and clumsiness are her only shortcomings. Real life has
messy, dirty, hard-to-deal-with issues, and you’re not perfect either.
So stop holding on to some Hollywoodized ideal. People are real and a
lot of their beauty is in those imperfections. Find a good one and hold
on to them.